The genderqueer have two types. Some go out of their way to make life difficult for people who are fond of traditional English grammar. They want to make sure you know that they are against the normative gender duality. Talking with them is like talking to Atheists at Christmas — you can’t win until you agree with them. Others just don’t fit into the factory standard boxes and they would really like it if you would just try to understand them and take them as-is. Personally, I find that the latter make for much better company.